Has FEAR Put Your Goals in a Full Nelson?

The mind is one of the the most amazingly complex organs that will never fully be explainable. Some things you just can’t solve with logic and history. Some things require no thought. Some things just are.

Fortunately for us we have the option, hundreds of thousands of times a day, to change, re-direct or recreate another option for our reality. It’s unfortunate that many dwell in limbo between reality and imagination, being present in life but not TRULY living.

Fear is just that. Not living. Dwelling. Moping. Blaming. Thinking. Considering. Fear leads to little or no action, only to confirm later that it was simply all in your head.

There are times when you need to add tons of caption to posts and there are times where posts simple speak for themselves. I’m hopeful that the message in this video not only reaches you but teaches you.

“People may be just socially accepting levels of insanity.”

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Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Breathtakingly Fine Possibilities: 7 Pieces of Advice for tha Sistas

BFP 1From the desk ofย  Tha Possibilities:

LADIES…can i offer you some advice? If you think it’s all BS, that’s cool…but i hope you can find some value in it.
#1: Sure, having more male friends than female friends might be less drama, but it’s also probably the reason you’re still single. ;). Trust me when I say that a woman with too many males is very not sexy!!! TRUST ME!!! I’m a MAN, so i know how we feel about a woman with a lot of male friends. we’ll fuck her, but we’ll never totally give her our heart because we always feel in the back of our minds that she’s fucked all of her male friends!! …and i used the word ‘fuck/fucked’ purposely! ๐Ÿ˜‰

#2: Hairy legs are NOT sexy, nor is too much pubic hair. Hairy legs and pubic hair were badges of honor as an adolescent, to prove you reached puberty, but once you get 18 or 19 shave or wax that sh*t off please…LOL at least neaten it up a lil bit ๐Ÿ˜‰ it’s not sexy, sis!!!

#3: If you smoke cigarettes or weed (and hopefully not crack) and your man doesn’t have an issue with it, then he doesn’t really give a f*ck about you. Any man who will sit idly by and watch the woman in his life destroy hers with nicotine and marijuana ain’t worth a good goddamn. F*ck him and find somebody who will make you leave that sh*t alone!

#4: A man who loves you, i mean really loves you, always listens! You may not think he hears but things that he deems important he makes a mental note of and will NEVER forget. If he forgets, it’s not important to him. If you tell him you giving him some coochie at 930am, on the second Tuesday of the month, does he forget? LOL. HELL NO!!! He always remembers things (and people) he deems important, remember that!

#5: Men tend to fall in love first, and we tend to fall hardest. Contrary to everything you’ve been led to believe, Black Men are the most sensitive, vulnerable, and emotionally insecure people on tha planet. Sure, there are those that are all about game, but that’s a incomplete man. A brotha, i mean a real black man, doesn’t take long to decide if a woman is worthy of his heart.

#6: You have to believe that you are even more FINE than your most loyal fan does. Whenever you allow someone else to recognize something in you, or about you, more than you do, you have relinquished the power you have over that thing. You no longer control the value of who you are. To be a star, the shine must begin in YOU!

#7:ADORE your people! Love all of humanity, but make your own people a priority. It’s an oxymoron to say you love all people, but hold disdain for your own people. Those people who look like you….think like you…who share a common history and culture with you. As a black person, your image of yourself is intimately connected to your image of black people. You CANNOT truly love yourself, if you don’t TRULY love black people. This is fundamentally important in relationships. To love a black man, you have to love his reflection, which is you!

As always, please stop my T’s myspace or facebook page and show him some love. It’s very rare to have a real black man feeding us wisdom on how to be all around better women.

-TPJ